I just activated an online profile yesterday. I'm finding that I still have some weird resistance to online dating. I have no idea what it is, but it freaks me out a little. I think part of it is that you are meeting through a dating site. We're all there for that very reason. Contrast that with casually meeting someone through school, an organization, a friend, etc. It's usually unexpected. You go about your business, then then POOF he's there, and before you know it you're having a great conversation and wondering if he's feeling the same way. Things progress, and the rest is history.
I guess I feel less pressure with the good old-fashioned way. In all honesty, I'd much prefer it that way. However, it's just not working for me. I've never been into meeting someone at a bar. And I suppose that in the back of my mind, I kinda expected to meet someone at school or through friends. I'm really not trying to be rude, but it's slim-pickin' at my school. The average law school guy has a ridiculous ego, is very insecure and socially awkward. There are some decent guys, however, I tend to find out they all have girlfriends or wives. Of course! Bottom line: what I've been doing isn't working.
Back to online dating. I'm actually surprised to hear that quite a few people I know have found good relationships through online dating. So far it's only been through eharmony and match. So, I'm going to have to try that out next. (Currently, my only profile is on a free site that shall remain nameless). Slowly, I think online dating has become more acceptable. I hear so many girls with the same complaints about dating the normal way. And with our busy schedules, it's really hard to take the time out to just sit on the couch and wait for prince charming to come knock on our doors. ;-) So, I figure what do we have to lose? It's working for some people, and they're happy. I guess it doesn't really matter how you meet just as long as you found someone compatible and you're both happy.
With that said, I'd like to share what little experience I do have. I figure it's a good laugh. I'd say the majority of guys are so far from my expectations. The following are all worthy of the DELETE button:
1) "Sup" - really? You think that's going to get a response? Grow up, buddy.
2) "Ur so beautiful" - "Ur" is spelled "You're"
3) Spelling and sentence structure in general - No one is perfect, but you should have some basics down. You only get one first impression.
3) Messaging several times - If I didn't respond the first time, I'm not going to respond the second... or third time either... and I'm going to label you as desperate and creepy.
4) Your pictures consist of you taking a picture of yourself in the mirror with your shirt off.
5) Too old or too young - I do not have daddy issues, and I'm also not looking for a Frat boy.
6) Non-Religious/Atheist - I clearly mentioned faith was important to me. Did you not read my profile?
7) You have pictures of your ex-girlfriend on your profile... or you blur out her face. That's weird, dude.
8) You send me a private message with pictures of your car.
I could go on and on, I'm sure. On a positive note, I've probably seen maybe one or two guys that may fit. I guess it only takes one, right?
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