Enough of the Bar Scene

I know I’m only 25, but I’m getting kinda tired of the bar scene. Maybe it’s one of those phases we all go through. Maybe it’s the fact that one of my jobs requires me to be in bars. Or maybe I’m finally growing up. Either way, I really miss spending quality time with people. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good girls’ night out dancing! But I’m kinda over having a “conversation” that consists of yelling over loud music, drunk guys trying to score some ass, and waking up way too late and getting nothing done.

I feel kinda lame wanting to spend my Friday and Saturday nights not drinking the night away. But lately… well, I’ve just really enjoyed staying home and watching tv premieres and movies, reading/writing (not homework), cooking, and having my own little dance party.  It’s not that there’s nothing going on. In fact, I’ve been finding myself choosing to stay in rather than take someone up on an invite… which is so different from my first year of law school. I was constantly getting people together to go out, and I made almost all Bar Reviews. And I had a ton of fun doing it. But two years later, I think the bar scene got old, and so very predictable.

I think my favorite way to spend time with friends and dates is doing something. Taking dance lessons, working out, going to the driving range or gun range, boating or even just going to the pool and tanning. I love me some activities! Plus, I think activities are best dates! I love it when someone can teach me something new. I’m more impressed that you are a really good pool-player or can teach me how to fly a plane/ride a motorcycle than by the fact that you can down 10 beers in only a matter of minutes.

In fact, this past summer I got pretty busy going out. I was around a ton of different people several nights a week. Yet I still found myself pretty unhappy most of the time (there were some pretty fun nights too). But it’s funny how you can be surrounded by people yet feel alone. I’m not sure what it was, but if I’m in a group or even on a date I much prefer doing an activity together than just going to a bar to sit and drink. At the very least I know I can’t do it every weekend. I have to do the bar scene in moderation or I get way too bored. Maybe that’s my problem, I get bored easily. I need change every now and then. I need challenge. I need intellectual stimulation. I need adventure. And I just don’t get any of that at bars. That reminds me, one of my friends did mention that I’m a little more “high maintenance “ when it comes to dates. I don’t need to spend hours on my makeup or nails, but I do need a creative mind to hold my interest.

Well, I may sound like an old lady trapped in a young woman’s body, but the bottom line is I’m happy doing what I’m doing, and I'm probably the happiest I've ever been.  So, who cares what you are "suppose" to do at 25, do what truly makes you happy and you'll be happy. Alrighty, readers, I’ve gotta get ready for some ballroom dancing lessons!