The purpose of this blog is simply to ponder the craziness of love and dating. I imagine some people may view this as overanalytical, and I used to feel guilty about my constant ponderances. However, now, I believe it's just human nature to want to date. I mean, it's hard not to think about it. We're constantly surrounded by it. Every time I turn on the radio, it's a song about love. When I watch a TV show or movie, there's always some kind of love struggle at play... even in action movies! And I can't seem to go to the grocery store without overbuying - all the portions are geared toward families. Plus, it's what we're taught to do. Grow up, get married, have babies. Now, I'm not about to run off to Vegas with the next guy I meet, but it would be nice to have partner in crime from time to time.

September 6, 2011

The Sex Market: The Cost of Sex

I'm really not sure where to start with this one, so I'll just start with this: I have fairly different views from the majority when it comes to casual sex, that is, I don't believe in it. Ladies, what has happened to making a guy work for it? Yes, women love sex too. But the one thing that separates women from men is that little love drug called oxytocin. Okay, well, it's a hormone, not a drug. It's been coined "the bonding hormone." It's produced during pregnancy to facilitate the bonding between mother and child. It's also produced when you... Ooooooo Oooohhhh Ahhhhhh Orgasm. Perhaps that's why so many of us get caught up with the wrong guy who doesn't call, doesn't follow through, and generally has no respect for us. One more dose of the big "O" and you're hooked. And that's not the only reason I don't believe in casual sex.

I've been told that guys have needs. They have desires. Well, damn it, so do I! I'm the kind of girl who really just wants to get to know you first. I'm not saying a girl needs to be a prude or an Ice Princess (as I've been called). No, I'm not a saint. I am far from perfect. But what is wrong with waiting a little while and getting to know each other? I can tell you that 9 times out of 10 I change my mind about liking a guy within the first 3 to 4 weeks of dating. Red flags start appearing. He seems to hate everyone around him. He has no goals in life. He has an awful relationship with his parents. He's never been able to maintain a long-term relationship. He belittles me. You get the picture. And by that time I can probably gauge what he's after. My point is that if I slept with every guy I dated for at least two weeks, I'd be a whore by now. That is not something I'd be proud of. And guess what, taking that time to see who he really is leaves me with NO regrets!

Overall, men have the upper hand here. Sex is cheap these days. What does it cost? A couple of drinks at a bar... so, about $15-$20? Maybe dinner... $40. I bet that's cheaper than a prostitute. And it's true, women hold keys for the most part. Men are mostly ready and willing. So, if we hold the keys, why are we selling it for so cheap? Ladies, why don't we demand more? Aren't we worth more?
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